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Valentine’s Day brings to mind romance, chocolates and the occasional reality of broken hearts – a day full of romance longed for and romance achieved. The arrival of Feb 14 brings with it the impartial company of rising stress levels for the romantically involved and the lonely alike. Whether you’re stressed over planning the perfect date, or hating on the love-struck couples on dates, Claire Henderson and Sandy Sum provide us with the ultimate Insomniac guide for surviving this media-fuelled day of love and longing.
The ultimate Insomniac guide is designed with all types of readers in mind, from the new love birds to the heartbroken and single. If you’re in a depressive mood as to how Feb 14 will pan out this year, this guide will introduce some last-minute optimism to your Valentine’s Day plans with recommendations for things to do, places to go, movies to watch and music to listen. Did we mention we’re thorough?
If this is your first romantic holiday with your partner, it’s time to put your detective skills to work. Find out your partner’s expectations of an ideal Valentine’s Day. Covertly ask his or her friends – the thought will be appreciated and friends may carry forward good reports of your thoughtfulness to your date (which never hurts!). Put in a little planning and you will be rewarded.
Billboards are telling you to do something ‘special’ – just like they do every Valentine’s day, followed by an advertisement for their ‘special event’. You may feel like you’ve already done everything right. Remember that the important thing is that both of you are doing it together. It can be a huge meaningful gesture or a relaxed night-in watching a favourite movie. As long as you’re together and making your other half the number one priority of the day, it doesn’t matter what you do (or even if you’ve done it before).
This is a tricky one and will depend on your emotional stability. Obviously we would love to see you move on into the ‘single and ready to mingle’ stage, but we understand that it will take time. So, for a while you may have to give in and indulge in a pity party. If you are really hurting, stay away from restaurants, cinemas or love fests. Going out with a group of friends to show off how unaffected you are may end up being no more than false bravado: no matter how large or fun a group you go out in, all you’re going to see is couple after couple. Don’t do it to yourself.
For those whose wounds are fresh, or just too deep to deal with, grab the ice-cream, tissues and a good old soppy movie and give in to staying in. We know it’s clichéd, but everyone knows it’s therapeutic!
P.S. This is best done with a fellow heartbroken friend or a sympathetic bestie! (Beware of it stretching out too long – even a bestie will lose patience if all you can talk about is him or her for months on end.)
Get out there! You’re not going to find someone if you’re holed up at home. Gather a group of single friends, some yummy food and have a good giggle, or head for some lively nightlife to see if Valentine’s Day can be your lucky day after all. See below for our picks of the best places to go.
Every Valentine’s day, there is an overwhelming number of offers and programmes thrown in your face. How do you choose, and how do you find the right place for you?
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